Saturday, October 25, 2008

Changing Places



Why is it that women are able to bash men or make it seem like they are always the victim? Don't get me wrong beyonce's song "If I were a Boy" is great and has much meaning, but lets be real women we can be abusive. We are abusive because we don't allow our men to branch out and do right. Instead we look for each flaw to give more reason to scream and release a built up anger. In "If I were a Boy" she says "you don't listen to her, you don't care ghow it hurts" so lets really tap into the words. speaking from personal experienxce when the men in my life have something of importance to them I tend to drift off to thoughts about myself...so get real ... and for the fact of saying he don't care how it hurts. hurting to men and women may be two different things, but when it comes to "love" a man can love as hard as a woman. so neither sex has space to really judge the other, because who actually haves a perfect relaationship.
it is true that you need to point out the flaws to rid them. so to role play is a great tactic, but the tactic can quickly turn into an altercation. the tactic becomes an altercation where instead of being the person you approach them as urself.
i am still confused on this topic so to help me out i leave with this question

In a relationship, who really has the upperhand? and When does the upperhand become out of hand?

get at ya girl

-biz

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

In a relationship, no one should have the upprhand. Thats where people go wrong. A relationship is a combination of two complete people that can SHARE ideas and thoughts and can COMMUNICATE with eachother. A relationship is a joint effort. Aint no upperhand in it. At least not all of it. Like maybe if the guy know's how to handle money then he shouldbe in charge of the money but that should be a joint decision feel me? Things like that. But no ONE person in a relationship should have the upperhand in the relationship as a whole, and when someone does thats when it becomes out of hand.

And as to what i said before.

"A relationship is a combination of two complete people."

Thats why most teenage relationships FAIL. Because they're not complete people in a relationship and think they need the other to "complete" them.